Dear Friends.

{Letters to the ones I love}

It has been a minute.

I wonder if you have met people who are reflections of their friends. Especially the duos or the ‘best friends forever’. If you see one, it’s like you’re seeing the other.

Like Bonnie and Clyde.

Technically, those two were lovers, but I can’t think of a better pair.

Or Tom and Jerry.

Sure, let’s forget the fact that they’re literally cat and rat and cannot stand each other.

Hobbs and Shaw?

Okay, I should probably stop now.


SpongeBob and Patrick!

Now, that is a killer pair. Although they might be different species who live under the sea, their stupidity reflects in one another. Also, they have a common goal to frustrate Squidward. The ultimate BFF goal.

Gift and Chinenyenwa.

Or Chinenyenwa and Gift. However you want to arrange it. I’m sure you’d know these two if you’re in my department. It doesn’t help that they look alike and ‘coincidentally’ wear the same clothes sometimes. It’s funny because I’m one of the few people who see them up close and they’re the human reincarnations of Tom and Jerry.

These people are reflections of their significant other. They sometimes possess similar characteristics and behavioral patterns. So the “show me your friend” proverb is applicable to them.

You’re probably wondering if I’m a “show me your friend” type of person. (Un)fortunately, I’m not. Maybe because I’ve never had that ‘one friend’ that people would associate me with for a long time. What can I say? I enjoy standing out.

What I do know is, I have a piece of me with a lot of people, but you can’t define or judge me based on the type of people I roll with.

I have friends who love to party, but i’m an introvert.

I have friends who are pretty intelligent. Well, I believe you know the opposite of that.

I have friends who are attracted to their gender on a scary level. I might be homophobic.

I have friends who are atheists. God and I are tight.

I have a tech bro friend, who everyone thinks i’m secretly in love with. It’s not a secret.

I have friends who are heavy on drugs and sex. I would assume I’m liberal to an extent, but penis? Pfft. I can do without.

I’m sure a lot of people can relate.

The main reason I started writing this was to appreciate my day ones, since the year is almost over.

2021 was a lot to handle mentally. For me, 2021 was a lot worse than 2020, but I feel like I should drop a heartfelt message, just cause.

I made some and lost some. Correction, I lost a whole lot but somehow, I made them again.

So, this is me saying thank you.

To the ones who always read and share.

To the ones who let me cry on them. The ones who would go on long walks with me. To the ones who inspired me, the ones who fought for me, even when I wasn’t there.

To the ones I pushed away for selfish reasons, to those who found me when I was lost. To those who held me when I was slipping away.

To the ones who felt betrayed.

To the ones I never text except I need something important. To the ones who return the same energy.

To the ones that feel forgotten.

To the writers, who paint pictures with words, for me to see and revel in.

To the ones I would have given the world. To the ones who are my world.

To the ones who push me, when all I want to do is sleep.

To the ones I thought I’d never see again. To the unexpected bonds made.

To the ones I made of recent, the ones I see in my dreams and in my future.

Here’s to stronger bonds. Here’s to me being a better friend.

Yours, till death do us part.





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